What do guys find attractive and what do they not? Well, there are some things that men look for in a woman and some things that will send them running for the hills. Attraction is something that happens under the surface in the subconscious mind. You may think that you are doing all the right things to attract a man but often you can have the opposite effect without knowing it. If you want to attract guys, you need to learn not only what men like, but how to avoid the things they don’t find attractive.
So many single women are inadvertently driving away guys just because they are simply not aware of where they are going wrong. When you are not conscious of what attracts and what repels men, then you may have difficulty getting past dating and into a committed relationship. Here are some of the traits and qualities that do not generate attraction a man; in fact they have precisely the opposite effect. Avoid these common pitfalls if you want to ensure dating and relationship success:
• Playing it safe or being plain boring
• Barraging him with questions or too much talking
• Being overly controversial early on
• Needing his approval to feel good about yourself
• Giving too much in the hopes that you will get back
• Not being happy
• Not giving him enough space to do his own stuff
• Expecting too much too soon in terms of a relationship
• Acting like his mother
• Not asking him for help
• Being overly dependent
• Jumping into bed with him too soon
• Having unresolved issues or a negative attitude to dating, men or life
• Not feeling able to communicate your needs then letting your frustration blow like a volcano
Do you recognise any of these traits in yourself? Being attractive to men is all about showing that you are an independent, quality woman who exhibits personality and zest for life, without going over the top and coming across as mad, desperate, needy or controlling. You should be comfortable enough to hold out for your needs to be met in a relationship, but you know that no man is obliged to meet them unless he wants to.
There has to be a balance of your needs against his and you have to be prepared to let him go if he’s not interested in moving forwards with you. When you want him because the relationship is fun, but you can also give him space then you are attractive to a guy. When you need him at all costs, even when he hurts you, he will smell your desperation a mile off. He won’t respect you and eventually he will leave.
When you give according to what you receive the relationship is balanced. That’s what men want even if they might say otherwise. When you give too much, or try to meet your own needs above his, then the relationship is out of balance and he won’t find you attractive.
When you know how to create attraction, you can hold back and let him show you where he wants your relationship to go. And his actions and your feelings will tell you whether or not he is the one for you. When you know all this and act accordingly; that’s what guys find attractive.